By Gloria Davenport PhD

Experienced caregivers will instantly realize Gloria Davenport's descriptions of the "toxic" character: elders who again and again poison their very own care surroundings with noncompliant and psychologically abusive habit. poisonous older adults are usually dangerous instances for gerontology pros: they could smash care relationships, or even produce co-victimization of their caregivers.

Davenport provides ways in which care companies can hinder tricky elders from manipulating the caregivers' strength and interfering with potent perform, relationships, and healing.

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Such avoidance thinking and projection only deepen the trap as the Rescuer daughter hooks in, again, to the co-Victim role and keeps the game going. When you, as gerontology professionals, take on the responsibility of a toxic client, constantly watch for signals of psychological game playing in yourself. Games are unconscious, and you, as the helper, are just as vulnerable to the "bad feeling" aftereffects of the game as are the adult children. In addition, be constantly 34 WHAT DO YOU MEAN, TOXIC?

Hopefully, these descriptions will be guidelines for baby boomers and successful future aging. Starved for "Nurturance" In a way it seems contradictory to say that the very people that chase others away with their hurtful words and body language are starved for nurturance, but they are. A self-centered focus leaves no room for self-love. Without self-love there is no love to give. Without love to give, little is received. Without nourishment, there is no such thing as successful aging. Mistrusting and disbelieving in their own value, toxic agers perceive themselves as unworthy of receiving any positive strokes.

Even without power positions, toxic agers will maintain control through manipulation. An example is the way they seduce people into friendships and involvements. Once the persons are won over, relationships sink into situations totally dominated by the toxic person. In operation it is the Victim/Persecutor game (see chapter 10 for psychological games). Freedom and integrity are now sacrificed in order to maintain the game. " WHY THE FOCUS ON TOXIC AGERS? 33 Emotional Constipation Closely associated with controlitis are the toxic ager's inhibition and suppression patterns.

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